Is Chivalry Dead?

couple with roseThe dating scene, an awkward, unexplored territory for most young teens and students. From the early stages of puppy love, passing notes, faint smiles, and small talks- to long-term relationships, our approach to our childhood crush trumps our intent every time. So, is chivalry dead? Not necessarily! Here are 9 old fashioned dating tips that need to come back into the modern dating scene:

  1. Good manners: Opening her door, saying “please” and “thank you”, footing the bill, or meeting her at her front door with flowers will never go out of style.
  2. Dress for the date you want: No, that doesn’t mean a tuxedo and bow-tie or a flower crown on your head, it means being clean, well dressed, and appropriate, not disheveled and unkempt.
  3. Ignore electronics: Do you want your date to know you’re interested? Leave your phone in the car. This will allow for uninterrupted conversation and ample opportunities to see what the other person is like apart from social media and distractions.
  4. Honesty is key: If you’re old enough to go on a date, you should have outgrown lying a long time ago. Don’t play games, don’t lead them on if you’re not interested, and don’t make up stories to sound more appealing; they’ll learn the truth in the end!
  5. Talk in person: While texting and instant messaging are easier, talking in person is the only genuine way to get to know each other. Indirect conversations leave room for misinterpretations and lead to disputes later.
  6. Remember the little things: By keeping track of small details, like our dates favorite coffee shop or football team, it shows that we really care. A little memorization goes a long way.
  7. Have a plan: While this is more for guys, it could apply to a lot of situations. Don’t show up on a date with no clue of what you are going to do! If you want him/her to know you care, put forth the effort to plan something, or make it a surprise. If you aren’t sure what she would prefer, pick a few choices and let her decide. Showing up and saying, “What do you want to do?” is annoying after a while!
  8. Meet the parents: Even if you’ve only had two dates, make it a point to introduce yourself to their parents. This shows that you are genuine, and lets the parents know what kind of person you are. If you want to step it up a notch, bring flowers for his/her mom.
  9. Tokens of love: On your first date, make it a point to learn their favorite chocolate, coffee shop, or flower. Then, between dates, you can send them a gift that shows you’re interested and care for them.


As enticing as young love may seem, remember to be appropriate, and don’t age yourself. Enjoy your high school years, or college years, and know that love will, and can, wait.


What dating tips do you think should make a comeback?


Author: Emma Murphy

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